Coming Out ~<3

[Flamepath]

So..... just 1 hour ago I told my best friend of 7 years that I am gay and they really already knew I guess. I was so scared and cried and then to know she still sees me as her friend is just ompf

I am still so lost on how to go about this, I plan to tell my parents when I am out of the house and independent but how do I act around my friends and when do I tell my other friends....

I guess I am doing this because I need someone else who has gone through coming out or is even just there for me

Ramble over

[Forestbreak]

I've been lucky in that coming out has always been relatively easy for me. I go to a pretty liberal school, two of my sisters are gay and came out before me, and my parents and friends are open, tolerant, and accepting. I've only had trouble with a few people, one of them being my uncle (an Evangelical Christian) and the others being some bigoted and close-minded friends.

It sounds like you may not be in the same situation, though. You already seem to be doing really well with it, though, so go you! And you already seem to know this, but keep in mind that it's sometimes best to wait to come out until you feel secure. Aside from that, remember that your real friends are going to love you through thick and thin.

[Flamepath]

Thanks for replying, just remind in myself that other people have done this helps. I am trying to accept myself now I guess and I will try and keep positive c:

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I honestly do not know why I told my friend when I did, no event happened to trigger it. I just was sitting in my room and started think about it and how I just needed to tell someone and it just happened. ^^;

I went to school and my friend acted like we always do. She did mention it a couple times but in a playful teasing manner so I think she is fine with it completely.

My school counselor is homophobic and if I go to her I know she will call home about it and yell at me so I now have to avoid her. So the little support there is gone

The issue is when I walk in the halls I just feel like I am lying to everyone. I kept staring at couples and I just cannot help but wish I was more normal. Now that I always ignored the fact that I am gay so now that someone knows it is all I can think about. I feel like when I walk past people they somehow know and I get scared.


I know my parents would take a while to accept me if they did. I have gay cousins but no direct family. Some cousins have been disowned by half my family... they are getting a little more accepting but not much. My mother always looks at them at things and says how they could get such a cute girlfriend/boyfriend if they would just try. My Papa says gay is a disease

I guess it would be safe to say that coming out to my family is a big no. I am just so confused hopefully this gets easier after day one....

[Hiroshi]

It's not actually hard coming out, what is hard is what people are going to do when you tell them. Just remember this though, whenever you do tell another one of your friends, And they judge you or leave you, they weren't really a friend in the first place. True friends stick together no matter what.

When I came out telling my friends that I was bisexual, I lost some friends, but that is okay, cause I still have friends who stuck with me after telling them, those are true friends. Not only that, I met alot of other great friends.

[Coalfoot]

Ok, so I think I might be a lesbian, but I'm not sure. I have a crush(I think it might be a crush. Idk) on two girls in my class, but I don't even know.

I haven't had a chance to talk to any guys that aren't immature [insert curse word here]. All the boys at my school are like that an I want nothing to do with them. So idk if I might be bi or not because I have not interests in the boys around me.

I'm not really worried about coming out if I am a lesbian, but the fear is still there. Most of my friends would accept me because we love gay/lesbian/etc and we support them. I have a friend who is openly gay and everyone accepts him from what I've seen so far. My parents, grandmother, and probably a few relatives would accept me, but I'm not sure about my grandfather. 

So is there any way to really know if I'm a lesbian? I'm just so confused about my sexuality now a days. 

[Rainspark]

Coalfoot - Sexuality can be REALLY confusing, especially when crushes happen. I'm pansexual, and I've had crushes on both guys and girls. Sexuality, I believe is fluid for some people. You could like girls one day, and guys the next. It really depends on who you are.

[Smokepaw]

--Coalpaw--

I’m biromantic (asexual) so my experiences may be a bit different from yours. I’ve never really had a /real/ crush before, but that doesn’t mean I can’t picture myself with anyone. It sounds like you could be Bi, but the guys at your school are being typical guys (teenage, I would guess?). 
If your having trouble figuring out exactly what sexuality you are just try and picture yourself with anyone: boy or girl. From what I know, when it comes to being bisexual/biromantic your usually more attracted to the type of person someone is rather than their physical appearance. Example: I feel more attracted to people that are chill and relaxed, yet my friend (who’s bisexual) likes guys/girls that are cheerful and outgoing. Of course, that doesn’t mean we can’t tell when someone is attractive ;3 _{actually I can’t I’m totally oblivious to that sort of thing lets just move on with this}
My best friend, who’s gay, doesn’t necessarily dislike guys, but she says that she could never picture herself going out with a guy. With me, I can picture myself going out with a girl or guy when I’m in, like, college, or maybe my senior year. Right now I’m not ready to be in a relationship, and I don’t know anyone who I’d be willing to enter a relationship with. And I’m okay with that. You should never need to feel pressured into proclaiming yourself a certain sexuality. Whoever you are attracted to: male, female, transgender, there will always be people who will accept you.

I hope all of that made sense, or at least helped you out a bit ( =^0w0^= )~ I’ve always been pretty confident in who am, just naturally I would guess, but a lot of my friends have struggled with their own sexualities. My best advice would to just not stress out about it as long as you have friends/family that support you.

[Longpaw]

I'm Pan- every one makes fun of me. To cheer me up, I posted the Uptown Funk lyrics below.

[Longpaw]

This hit, that ice cold
Michelle Pfeiffer, that white gold
This one for them hood girls
Them good girls straight masterpieces
Stylin', whilen, livin' it up in the city
Got Chucks on with Saint Laurent
Got kiss myself, I'm so pretty

[Longpaw]

I'm too hot (hot damn)
Called a police and a fireman
I'm too hot (hot damn)
Make a dragon wanna retire man
I'm too hot (hot damn)
Say my name you know who I am
I'm too hot (hot damn)
Am I bad 'bout that money, break it down

[Longpaw]

Girls hit your hallelujah (whoo)
Girls hit your hallelujah (whoo)
Girls hit your hallelujah (whoo)
'Cause uptown funk gon' give it to you
'Cause uptown funk gon' give it to you
'Cause uptown funk gon' give it to you
Saturday night and we in the spot
Don't believe me just watch (come on)

[Longpaw]

Don't believe me just watch uh

[Longpaw]

Don't believe me just watch
Don't believe me just watch
Don't believe me just watch
Don't believe me just watch
Hey, hey, hey, oh

[Longpaw]

Stop, wait a minute
Fill my cup, put some liquor in it
Take a sip, sign a check
Julio, get the stretch
Ride to Harlem, Hollywood
Jackson, Mississippi
If we show up, we gon' show out
Smoother than a fresh dry skippy

[Longpaw]

I'm too hot (hot damn)
Called a police and a fireman
I'm too hot (hot damn)
Make a dragon wanna retire man
I'm too hot (hot damn)
Bitch say my name you know who I am
I'm too hot (hot damn)
Am I bad 'bout that money
Break it down